If you’re like me, or just curious, you’ll have trawled for hours online trying to find websites about somnophilia that aren’t judgemental or get their information from psychiatric studies done by closed-minded bible bashers!
This will be MY take on the whole scene, and will be both my experiences and fantasy.
Right, if you’ve stumbled on this by accident, or still don’t really know what I’m going on about, I’ll tell you.
I am a Somnophile.
Somnophilia is the ‘condition’ of being turned on by the thought or the act of having sex with someone who is asleep. This also includes the fantasy of someone having sex with YOU in your sleep!
Many people will tell you that this is rare, unhealthy, and the same as Necrophilia – and I’m here to tell you that those people are, for the most part, wrong.
Necrophilia is fucking dead people. While I can see the crossover between the two, most Somnophiles quite like the idea that the object of their desires is warm, not full of maggots and embarrassing gasses, and above all that they may wake up!
Of course there will be many reasons for why people have this fetish and how they carry it out.
One of the biggest things that seem to be apparent about Somnophilia is that it is predominantly the fantasy of females! This could be the submission/control aspect, because it evokes memories of ‘Sleeping Beauty’ stories, or even that by it’s nature, the act of having sex without waking someone means that you have to be very gentle. This is in stark contrast to most porn and most popular fetishes – not to mention most ideas of what constitutes good sex these days.
Another popular misconception is that it is rape. Of course, it can be – but then maybe we should question why people who are unwilling to have sex are in sleeping together in the first place?
Personally, I’ve been fortunate enough now to have had two sexual partners who were also into somnophilia. It was a simple case of it cropping up and agreeing that we trusted the other and wouldn’t mind if they ‘took advantage’ of them in their sleep.
I suspect that somnophilia is far more common than we imagine in modern times, and hopefully more people will finally be willing to talk about this despite it’s taboo status.
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